Whether or not to have a Christening was something that we struggled with.
We pretty much said no from the day we announced my pregnancy. I was raised Lutheran, Andrew Catholic; neither of us attend church, nor were we married in the church. I didn’t feel right about Christening Caelan under the church, knowing I wouldn’t follow its faith or raise my son to believe in its literature. It seemed wrong.
Then there’s the whole concept of original sin. And I don’t want to get into it, but I don’t believe that my innocent son needs to be cleansed of anything. He was born perfect and I believe that all humans are born with nothing but good. Just my opinion.
Despite all of this, we kept coming back to this idea of not wanting to do nothing. We liked the idea of welcoming our son into our families, of naming him, and of presenting him to the world. I’m good with spirituality and human connectedness, I just wanted to leave the religion out.My sister got married a few months ago, and her ceremony was performed by a non-denominational pastor who believes in ancient wisdom and human-centered ceremonies. She happens to do baby blessings. She also happens to be one of the coolest people I have ever met and I can’t even believe how perfect it was finding her.
We wrote Caelan’s ceremony together, incorporating everything we wanted, piece by piece, and leaving out what we didn’t. We said parent vows, his godparents (my sister and her husband) said vows, not about his religious education, but about being there to support and love him when he feels that he can’t come to his parents. There were readings and a naming ceremony. The pastor spoke about the journey of parenthood/childhood. But the day was about welcoming Caelan into our world, as this already perfect little human. It was about passing down our wisdom and love, but also about knowing how much he will teach us.
We held Caelan’s ceremony in Andrew’s grandparent’s backyard, the home in which he grew up. Both of our families were able to attend and welcome our little boy into their loving worlds. We had a ton of food, wine, and outdoor games and just spent the day as a family. It was so authentic and perfect for my quirky, non-traditional little family!