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Ever wonder, what do moms really want for mother’s day? We’re sharing 11 ideas that will make all moms smile and feel appreciated
So right there is your first clue! What moms really want for Mother’s Day is to feel appreciated. To be seen. To get a break, a chance to fill her cup so she can continue filling everyone else’s.
As the mom of two energetic, wild boys, I can confidently say one thing: Mother’s Day is well deserved. And I don’t care if your wife/significant other told you she doesn’t want anything, get her something.
Not to sound preach-y, but moms work hard. There’s no weekends in kid-ville. No hot cups of coffee, sleeping in, or time alone. I love every second of it, but gosh, it’s exhausting!
As a mom, I exist on my children’s schedule. There’s rarely any balance in my favor, and a lot of self sacrifice. Having other people (read: husbands/dads) recognize that is what moms really want for Mother’s Day.
But, contrary to what you might believe, I don’t want a day away from my kids. I don’t need you to take them out so I can have a fancy spa day. I could care less about jewelry, brunch, expensive dinners, or a new bag.
I’ll let you in on a little secret…
Moms simply want to feel appreciated. And, sometimes, we want to be the fun parent, not the to-do list parent. Even if it’s just for one day.
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What Do Moms Really Want For Mother’s Day??
I’ll let you in on another little secret…
The best Mother’s Day gifts won’t actually cost you a lot. In fact, many of them are free. You literally don’t need to leave your house to create an ideal Mother’s Day.
Simply come from a place of recognition and appreciation.
If there is something you want more as a mom of little kids for Mother’s Day, I tip my hat to you. Uninterrupted, as long as you need it sleep is all I want and need out of life.
From the up all night newborn phase, to the why is my child actually sleeping phase, the one thing you can count on as a mom is less than 6 hours a night. Once a year, I’d like at least 8.
Hey dads, if you do nothing else, let your wife sleep in on Mother’s Day. And please, PLEASE, don’t let her wake up to a mess.
Moms are pretty much used to reheating the same cup of coffee sixteen times until they resign themselves to drinking this not exactly warm but not iced-coffee cup daily.
What to moms really want for Mother’s Day? A piping hot cup of coffee in bed is a great place to start.
For Someone Else to Say I’ll Do it
It doesn’t matter if your kids are 2 or 22, moms are tired of cleaning up after you. We gush over those coupon books with an IOU for one free load of laundry. Someone else to do something that I typically do instead of relax is literally a gift sent from heaven. Save your money and sign me up for a day of no diapers.
I may not save every stupid construction paper craft my kids ever brought home from daycare, but those I love you cards with a scribbled signature get me. I want a card from the toddlers who made me a mom.
Dads, dig out your wife’s stash of craft supplies – you know she has one. What moms really want for Mother’s Day is for her kid to make her something silly for Mother’s Day!
A Relaxing Day as a Family
Again, I don’t subscribe to the notion of spending Mother’s Day alone, away from my family. If that’s your thing, you do you and enjoy the heck out of your day.
But I personally want to spend the day with the little ones that made me a mama. I just want to actually enjoy the day though, rather than manage it, you know?
I love spending Mother’s Day at the arboretum, going for a family walk, watching family movies, or simply playing with my kids. Ideally, someone else can change all the diapers and prep all the snacks so I can sit on the floor and get trampled by dinosaurs while my toddler belly laughs so hard it hurts. Basically, I want to be dad for a day.
Move over crowded, overpriced Sunday brunch and bring me a pizza. If you want to really go all out, make sure you get paper plates and plasticware so mama doesn’t have to do a sink full of dishes.
Under no circumstances should anyone ask mom what’s for dinner.
Because, you know, kids. Putting my feet up with a glass of white Bordeaux while someone else puts the kids to bed literally sounds like heaven in a glass. Pour me a second one while you’re up checking on them, too.
Snag the mom in your life a new cute wine tumbler, too! I’m a sucker for themed wine glasses, despite having an entire server full of wine glasses and gadgets. Can someone please buy me a #boymom one!?!?
Mother’s Day literally marks the beginning of creating new life. In addition to the scars and stretch marks on your body, low-maintenance plants are a great reminder of that. Plus they’re nice to look at.
My son’s school sent him home with a tomato plant one year and we literally harvested tomatoes all year! I loved sharing the experience of planting, watering, and picking tomatoes with him.
Did you think this former librarian wouldn’t recommend books?
There are a lot of crap parenting books on the market, and a few gems that are actually relatable and hilarious. Despite having zero time to read, I always appreciate the gift of something designed to help me feel like me.
Grab your mom or wife a copy of Confessions of a Domestic Failure and she’ll think, for once, that you actually appreciate how hard she works despite being a hot mess.
Related: You can find a full mini review of Confessions of a Domestic Failure here, featured in our most popular book list!
Breakfast in Bed
One of the best Mother’s Day gifts you can give an overworked, exhausted mom is breakfast in bed! On a normal day, moms finish about four hours of work before they get a chance to maybe eat themselves. Breakfast in bed is a great way to show appreciation for that!
Every year, my husband makes a batch of mimosas and throws an omelette together. Starting my day feeling relaxed, appreciated, and taken care of is the best feeling. That’s feeling is what moms really want for Mother’s Day!
A Car Wash
No matter how many times you swear up and down that your kids won’t eat in your car, they will. And you’ll never have time to clean it. Get me the ritz level car wash and I swear, you’ll see me light up! Clean the carseats while you’re at it.
Assuming your home is like mine (read: crazy), mama probably needs more than a six second shower.
Having an hour to relax, read a book in the bathtub, and enjoy a glass of wine sounds like an idea way to end my Mother’s Day. I love teak bath caddies that hold your wine and books, too!
Toddler moms don’t need to be waited on hand and foot. They don’t need expensive or fancy gifts or an entire day to play Real Housewife.
What moms – especially toddler moms – really want for Mother’s Day is a simple thank you. A day to feel appreciated enough to not do all of the work.
If you can make that happen for the mom in your life, you’ll earn your gold star! And you won’t have to hear anyone bitch about a sink full of dishes for a day. Win win if you ask me.
Now that you know what moms really want for Mother’s Day, what will you get her?